Showing posts with label Father's Day. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Father's Day. Show all posts

Sunday, June 17, 2012

Father's Day, 2012

Today's Father's Day. I see that I didn't do a "Father's Day post" last year: partly because I'd gotten a Trinity Sunday guest post for that day. Besides, I'd posted about 'family values,' "Addams and Otherwise," the previous Sunday.

I plan to celebrate Father's Day this year the same way I have before: by being a dad. My wife and I were blessed with six children, four of whom survived birth. I like being a father, although I haven't been all that crazy about changing diapers and the occasional rough spots that come as kids grow from infants to adults.

The 'Big Picture'

Quite a few posts in this blog are about 'big picture' topics, issues that affect this nation and the world:
I think it's important to keep 'working for a better world' issues in mind, since as a practicing Catholic I'm expected to:
  • Support religious freedom
    (Catechism of the Catholic Church, 2104-2109)
    • For everybody
      (Catechism, 2106)
  • Take an active part in public life
    (Catechism, 1915)
  • Contribute to the good of society
    • In a spirit of
      • Truth
      • Justice
      • Solidarity
      • Freedom
    (Catechism, 2239)
  • Submit to legitimate authorities
    • Refuse obedience to civil authorities
      • When their demands are contrary to those of an upright conscience
      (Catechism, 2242)
    (Catechism, 2239)
    (June 1, 2012)

Citizenship Starts at Home

As a father, one of the vital ways I can "contribute to the good of society" is by spending the time and effort needed to be 'dad.' That's not just my opinion:
"The divine fatherhood is the source of human fatherhood;16 this is the foundation of the honor owed to parents. The respect of children, whether minors or adults, for their father and mother17 is nourished by the natural affection born of the bond uniting them. It is required by God's commandment.18"

"Parents must regard their children as children of God and respect them as human persons. Showing themselves obedient to the will of the Father in heaven, they educate their children to fulfill God's law."
(Catechism of the Catholic Church, 2214, 2222)
That opening statement: "The divine fatherhood is the source of human fatherhood..." sets the bar pretty high. 'No pressure,' as the ironic phrase goes.

One more thing, before it's time for Mass. I've said this before, when it comes to parents and children: Respect goes both ways. (July 12, 2011)

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Pride, Walking by Faith, and Fathers

Readings for June 17, 2012, 11th Sunday in Ordinary time 2012:

11th Sunday in Ordinary time 2012

By Deacon Lawrence N. Kaas
June 17, 2012

Pride is a very difficult sin because it attacks even the good desires people have for excellence. The proud are not generally weak people, who vacillate driven by their passions or ignorance. Instead, the proud are usually quite good people, except for the fact that they want to attribute all their accomplishments to themselves. This is not only true of people who have earthly kingdoms, but, sadly, can also characterize those who embrace the kingdom of God. Today, the Lord teaches us, through the parables, that this kingdom can only be embraced in humility.

Many Christians embrace the spiritual life, expecting spectacular and persistent religious experiences. Some people claim they cannot grow in prayer because of the humility or sufferings of their surroundings. Others really want to find some method or proof that God loves them, beyond the passion and the resurrection. In the parable of the mustard seed, the Lord teaches the church that his kingdom has small, almost imperceptible, beginnings. Not normally does one experience the presence of God in triumphal and spectacular events. The growth of all seed takes place almost without the grower being aware of the plant growing. Nature is brought to perfection gradually, in gentle stages. The same is true with the life of grace.

Ezekiel speaks in his prophecy of the shoot which shall "sprout branches and bear fruit and become a noble cedar" from (Ezekiel 17:23). This is the savior who will come from the little shoot which is Mary. Jesus is the vine in whom all received life, and in whom all rest. His grace, virtues and gifts are the source of true human greatness, increasing in the secrets of the soul by gospel living. Gospel living is easy to express but hard to live. It encompasses the rooting out of faults, and the assiduous desire to grow in the virtue of one's estate. This is normally done in the secret of the soul and accomplished not by our works, but by grace. As Paul says: "we walk by faith and not by sight" from, (Second Corinthians 5:7).

Christ talks about rooting out Pride in the parables by emphasizing the small in the hidden growth of his church. Faults are normally rooted out, not so much by gritting one's teeth and just bearing it, but by the more positive road of practicing the contrary virtue. The contrary virtue of pride is humility. What is humility? Strong man telling themselves they are weak? Beautiful women telling themselves they are ugly? Intelligent people telling themselves they are stupid? This cannot be so, since this is not true, and God is never served by a lie. Humility does not mean thinking less of yourself, not self deprecation, but thinking of yourself less. In other words, the seed an the bush are very lowly things, but they serve much higher purposes, with the force of the seed already within it when it is planted in the soul. That force must produce fruit silently and slowly. So grace serves the good of self and others.

How does the fruit of humility grow? Some people think it is humility to be a doormat to other people's tyranny. This looks like humility but it is not, because it is born more of fear of getting into trouble, then of desire for the good of others. Thomas Aquinas once wrote that humility is a good, but not in all circumstances. "So it is not proper to humility, but to stupidity, for a man to accept every kind of humiliation, but what must be done for the sake of virtue a person does not reject because of humiliation" (Thomas Aquinas).

For the sake of virtue, people may expose themselves to humble tasks to control their own desire to dominate others, or even to encourage people who have to do humble tasks in their importance. Teresa of Avila said that when she was accused of a fault of which he was innocent, she never protested, because she thought she had deeper more hidden faults, which no one knew about, and was glad they did not accuse her of them. The little mustard seed imperceptibly becomes a great tree because of the power given from above. "Lord, it is good to give thanks to you" from our Responsorial Psalm.

We think today of all fathers, paternal or spiritual with the realization that all life comes into the world through the father.

I remember one day talking to a few ladies and I made the offhand comment that I couldn't understand how they could fall in love with us guys in the first place, we were not that great to look at, second we seem to bring a lot of dirt and smells into the house. I was put in my place by the response of one lady looking at me and said, how do you think we're going to get our babies. I didn't argue any more.

Studies of the recent past have shown conclusively the importance of the father in the home. And really would indicate the importance of all men being father to all children in whom they come in contact.

I often think and wish that I could have had as much respect for my own dad as I do now that he has gone to his reward. And I'm betting that many of you could say the same thing. So if your dad is passed on say extra prayers for him today and if your dad is still with us give him the extra special love that all dads need just to stay healthy.

'Thank you' to Deacon Kaas, for letting me post his reflection here.

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Sunday, June 20, 2010

Father's Day, 2010

No particularly deep thoughts today.

It's Father's Day here in America. Since it's also a Sunday, I went to Mass. Recognizing the regional culture, the parish priest had all fathers stand: after which he blessed us.


Mass at Our Lady of the Angels Church, Sauk Centre. June 20, 2010

Well, Maybe One Deep Thought

The Mass, and the homily, involved Zechariah 12:10-11, 13:1; Galatians 3:26-29; and Luke 9:18-24. The passage from Luke starts with a really important question:
"8 9 Once when Jesus was praying in solitude, and the disciples were with him, he asked them, 'Who do the crowds say that I am?' "
Luke 9:18
I've read the rest of what my Lord had to say about who - and what - He is. Including this unequivocal statement:
" 'Amen, amen, I say to you, before Abraham came to be, I AM.' "
(John 8:58)
Through the centuries, other people have claimed to be God. What made my Lord stand out was that he was able to make the claim stick. I've written about that before. More than once.

Jesus said that he was - and is - God. I believe Him. And because I believe, I have to be on the same page with Joshua:
"3 If it does not please you to serve the LORD, decide today whom you will serve, the gods your fathers served beyond the River or the gods of the Amorites in whose country you are dwelling. As for me and my household, we will serve the LORD."
(Joshua 24:15)
I thought about editing out that bit about "the gods your fathers served beyond the River" and so forth. It was relevant to the folks Joshua was talking to, but not so much now, more than two dozen centuries later. The choice Joshua offered, though, is still an important one.

Enough With being Serious

After Mass, I over-grilled burgers while spending some time outside with #1 daughter. Next weekend, God willing, I'll try to remember that it's summer - and burgers heat up faster now.

After lunch, I picked up green tea and Boost at the grocery, and spent the rest of the day relaxing. #1 daughter went back to her place in Alexandria, down the road - and called me after she got there, to let me know about a special Dirty Jobs show on Discovery channel.

It's been a good Father's Day.

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Sunday, June 21, 2009

Father's Day, 2009

I'm enjoying Father's Day. I've watched cartoons with some of the (grown) kids, heard "happy Father's Day" from members of the family who are at home, and relaxed a bit.

In a few minutes, I even plan to spend a little time in an old lazy boy chair.

I'm writing a few posts about Father's Day for another blog, and ran across this advice to priests:
"...Take advantage of opportunities that arise during the course of the year to celebrate marriage and family and the vision that the church has for each. However, be mindful in your preaching of the marriages and families that fall short of those ideals because of domestic violence. Examples of such opportunities include Holy Family Sunday (Sunday after Christmas), We Believe in Marriage Day (Sunday closest to Valentine's Day), Mother's Day, and Father's Day. Pay special attention to your interpretation or explanation of the second reading on Holy Family Sunday. Paul's admonition to wives to be submissive to their husbands' needs to be seen in the context of the times it was written, as well as the context of the entire passage. ...

"...The following are illustrations to introduce a homily that will touch on some issue relating to domestic violence. Look at the newspaper just about any day of the week and find a story regarding an act of violence done within a family system, or relate a time when you were a victim of an act of violence. Draw from the scripture reading teachings that deplore such acts and offer some concrete suggestions as to how the Christian might respond in the face of such situations.

"Present the historical concept of "sanctuary" as "safe space" and relate it to the church's present mission to provide a place where people can gather for refuge from danger, acts of violence, personal storms, and trials...." (USCCB)
That "Paul's admonition to wives" is the business of Ephesians 5, 22: one of the more appallingly misunderstood, misused, and hated verses in the Bible.

The United States Conference of Catholic Bishops has quite a bit to say about those words. (When I Call for Help: A Pastoral Response to Domestic Violence Against Women, for starters) It's true, by the way. Jerks who beat their wives and/or girlfriends have used Ephesians 5, 22, as an excuse.

That's "Wives should be subordinate to their husbands as to the Lord."

The jerks ignore, or possibly don't know about, the next verse: "For the husband is head of his wife just as Christ is head of the church, he himself the savior of the body." The way I see it, when I married my wife, I agreed to act toward her as Jesus did, and does, toward the church.

Which meant that, if necessary, I would die in her service. As my Lord did.

Being the head of something isn't quite the same thing for the Catholic Church, as it is some places. The pope has been the "servant of the servants of God" at least as far back as Pope Gregory X, in 1272.

I realize that the United States Conference of Catholic Bishops is dealing with a culture that's badly out of whack, but I'd like to point out something that may not be all that obvious.

There are men who don't beat their wives and/or girlfriends.

To all of you who have some clue as to what sort of responsibilities come along with having kids: happy Father's Day.

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